Recently I’ve been a bit more obsessed than usual about fixing my self up (physical-wise). This is because of the effect my good friend has contaminated me with, being 30 in the soonest future and yet still single.

I’ve admittedly been a bit cynical about men’s parameter of choosing the right “mate”, accusing them with seeing women ONLY from physical aspect. By time this harsh view of mine changed bit by bit, to men choosing women MOSTLY because of women’s physical beauty, and then to men choosing women by FIRSTLY seeing women’s outer appearance.

Now I believe that the latter opinion is true, that men don’t see women only from physical point of view, but be they as God’s made them, men are still visual creatures. Means no matter how smart a woman is, how kind and gentle her heart is, still the first filter a man uses is her physical appearance. So yes, it’s not the MAIN thing for them, but it’s the FIRST thing they see.

Now achieving outer beauty should not be meant to impress a guy. You can put that as the no 2, 3, 4, or last of your reasons list why it is important to be beautiful. But it should never win the no 1’s spot. As for me, I put it as the no 3 on my list 😉

Fixing yourself up, dressing up, putting on make up for me first and foremost is to boosting up my confidence. Honestly I’m a bit short at this department recently, and I know it shows up in my face, my words, and my body language. As a professional and as a single girl, confidence is supposed to be your ammo! Your weapon, your armor, your biggest capital. The most recent situation happens this week which has cost me losing the opportunity to convince some decision maker in the office to buy in my process improvement initiatives. And also there was this wedding that I attended one week ago where 2 super cute doctors (1 of them is a specialist/resident, mind you), super single, but also super shy (that explains the “super single” part), but heck I just couldn’t bring my self up to build a cheer, funny, classy conversation to get them engaged (for the record, I’ve always been a good ice-breaker, good topic bringer, and good listener. Making up an interesting conversation was never a problem). The night ended with zero result.

I think our biggest capital should lie in self confidence.  And to induce self confidence, we should love our selves, inner and outer. And I love my self more when I know I look beautiful, neat, and fragrant.

Later on, I will be writing about what are the parameters of being outerly beautiful. Talking about inner beauty is way out of my league hahaha… Hand it up to my friend Entatarina for the time being.  🙂

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